Among all living creatures, only humans possess the true capacity for gratitude. Some might argue, claiming that animals like dogs show affection and loyalty to their owners, but this behavior is rooted in instinct, not in the conscious act of gratitude. A dog’s actions are driven by its nature, not by an understanding of the love it receives. Only humans have the ability to genuinely feel and express thankfulness, to acknowledge the kindness of others and reciprocate it thoughtfully.
However, despite this unique human ability, it is often hard to practice gratitude consistently. Our nature is quick to forget kindness and focused more on what we lack or desire rather than reflecting on what we have received. The idea of gratitude, especially towards those who have helped us, is one of the most valuable lessons we can learn as humans.
Did you know?
There are three types of people that are very hard to find in life:
- The Buddha
- Someone who can teach the Buddha’s teachings accurately, with a heart of goodwill and sincere intention
- Someone who knows how to be grateful.
The Unseen Power of Gratitude
There is a powerful and painful truth about the nature of human forgetfulness. Imagine being taken care of for 15 years, with everything provided: luxury, comfort, and even personal care. But when those who once provided are no longer there, we quickly forget all the kindness and focus solely on our own dissatisfaction. This reflects how, despite the tremendous efforts and sacrifices made for us, we are quick to become angry and resentful when things don’t go our way.
This tendency to forget the kindness of others, especially our parents, is one of the most profound and heartbreaking aspects of human nature. We may take for granted the unconditional love and care given to us over the years, focusing only on the smallest grievances. As the Buddha’s teachings remind us, we should never forget those who have helped us, especially the ones who gave us life, and we should remember that they are the ones who shaped us into who we are.
The Buddha’s Teachings on Gratitude
In Buddhist teachings, there is a significant emphasis on gratitude as a virtue. The Buddha speaks of three kinds of rare and noble people: the Buddha himself, those who can accurately teach the Buddha’s teachings with compassion, and those who possess the rare quality of true gratitude. This third category, those who can genuinely express gratitude, might seem surprising, but it is a reminder of how difficult it can be to truly live a life of thankfulness.
As we grow older and face life’s ups and downs, we come to understand the immense value of gratitude. While it may seem like a simple concept, practicing gratitude is far from easy. We often fail to acknowledge the contributions and sacrifices of others, especially when they are no longer in our lives. The Buddha teaches us that the person who can truly express gratitude is a rare and enlightened individual, someone who embodies a level of understanding and humility that can transform their life and the lives of others.
Living with Gratitude
Gratitude is not just a fleeting feeling; it should be a constant practice. It is about recognizing the kindness of others, especially those who have given selflessly, like our parents. In the Buddhist tradition, gratitude is seen as the foundation for spiritual growth. To live with gratitude means to understand that everything we have comes from others, and that we are interconnected with all beings. Just as we must remember and honor our parents, we should also carry that sense of gratitude in all aspects of our lives.
On this special day, as we reflect on the teachings of the Buddha and the importance of gratitude, we should remember that living with gratitude is not about occasional recognition, but about continuously honoring those who have shaped our lives. This includes acknowledging the sacrifices and kindness of our parents and others who have helped us along the way. Gratitude is the light that can guide us through life’s darkest moments, and it is a practice that leads to peace, happiness, and spiritual growth.
The Importance of Recognizing Our Roots and Giving Back
In the Buddhist teachings, there is an emphasis on recognizing the source of our blessings and showing respect and gratitude to those who have given us life. In our day-to-day lives, we often get distracted by our own desires, forget the generosity of those who have raised us, and focus more on the material world. However, gratitude isn’t just about thanking others for what they’ve done for us; it’s about understanding the interconnectedness of all things, and the role that both good and bad experiences play in shaping our lives.
The Buddhist perspective on impermanence teaches us that everything in life is transient, and this includes the relationships we share with others. No one and nothing stays the same forever. Recognizing this truth allows us to appreciate the present moment, cherish the love and support we receive, and be more forgiving of past grievances. It encourages us to not cling to anger or resentment, but instead embrace the lessons that each relationship and experience brings. When we recognize that all things are impermanent, it becomes easier to let go of the small things that hinder our growth and peace of mind.
Living with Awareness of Our Actions and Gratitude
The practice of mindfulness and meditation in Buddhism helps us stay aware of our actions and their impact on others. It encourages us to live with an open heart, to cultivate compassion, and to remain rooted in gratitude for the countless ways in which we are supported by others. Being aware of our interconnectedness allows us to become more self-aware and to live more intentionally, making each moment an opportunity to express gratitude and kindness to those around us.
In conclusion, the practice of gratitude is one of the cornerstones of Buddhist philosophy, helping us to understand our place in the world and the importance of showing respect and love to those who have supported us. As we continue on our spiritual journey, let us not forget to honor the source of our blessings, practice compassion, and live with a heart full of gratitude. Gratitude is not just a feeling, but a way of life—a path to deeper peace, understanding, and spiritual enlightenment.
Lesson by Venerable Toại Khanh
