3 type of insecurities
When we feel insecure, we often think we are inferior to others. The Buddha taught that there are three types of insecurities: One is the feeling of being superior to others, two is the feeling of being equal to others, and three is the feeling of being inferior to others. Among these, the most common is the insecurity of feeling inferior to others.
This insecurity makes us withdraw, unable to open up, because we always think we are unworthy or incapable. For example, if we think we are unattractive, we might avoid facing others, constantly feeling inferior about our appearance. However, if we try to observe the actions of others and compare them with our thoughts, we might realize that our assumptions about others were wrong. From there, we can adjust our perceptions and avoid misunderstanding.
A story about insecurities
Confucius had a disciple named Yan Hui. During a time of war, while traveling through a village, the villagers offered them some rice to cook. Confucius told Yan Hui to cook while he sat and read. While cooking, Yan Hui ate some of the rice but did not say anything to Confucius. When Confucius found out, he thought Yan Hui had eaten in front of him without informing him, and he felt sad.
When asked, Yan Hui explained that some rice had fallen on the ground and had dust on it, so he wiped it off and ate it to avoid wasting it. After hearing the explanation, Confucius realized that he had prematurely judged his disciple. He patted his head and acknowledged that he had almost become a fool for doubting without seeking the truth. This shows that sometimes we quickly form conclusions about others without truly understanding the situation.
Sometimes, we quickly judge others without giving them a chance to prove us wrong. A way to avoid this is by not making conclusions too soon. Instead, we can observe and allow others to express themselves. If their actions do not align with our initial thoughts, it’s an opportunity for us to correct our own perceptions.
This article is compiled based on a sermon by Venerable Thích Pháp Hòa.
